You Tell Us: A Baby Shower Without a Mom-to-Be?
We recently read about a baby shower that left us a little befuddled. The shower was planned, and all the guests had R.S.V.P.ed when the mother-to-be found out she couldn’t make it. On doctor’s orders, she was supposed to stay off her feet and rest.
But instead of canceling the shower, she insisted that her mother host the event with her friends and family members despite her absence so that she could still benefit from the gifts her guests were bringing.
Does this seem odd to you? Have you ever been to a baby shower without a mom-to-be as the guest of honor? What would you do if you were in her shoes? You tell us!
Tags: baby shower, gifts, guests, You Tell Us
July 31st, 2009 at 8:35 am
I would’ve asked the host and guests to come to me instead of me coming to them. I was on moderate bedrest during my pregnancy and was often frustrated and lonely. I’m sure the mom-to-be would enjoy the company as well as the new items.
July 31st, 2009 at 8:44 am
I agree with Kelly – they should have altered the venue to come to the mom-to-be. I’m sure everyone would have been glad to help with any clean-up (possibly leaving the home in a better state than they arrived -nice!) As a guest, I certainly would have been put-off by this, and I also experienced a time of bedrest while pregnant.
July 31st, 2009 at 8:50 am
I have been to a shower like this. Going to the mom to be isn’t an option most of the time. The mom that missed her shower was in the hospital and there was over 100 people there.
What they did instead was have the hubby show up, videotaped the whole thing, and had her on speaker phone from the hospital room.
July 31st, 2009 at 10:38 am
I have heard of mom’s to be having to postpone the shower due to early labor or bed rest but I am not sure how I would feel about having the shower with out the mom to be. Well I can tell ya how I’d feel I would feel as it was simply about the GIFTS and that drives me wild!! Had the shower been postponed or cancelled I would imagine most people would still have given a gift.
August 3rd, 2009 at 11:37 am
I was on moderate bedrest with the first and we had my shower after the birth of the baby–but I wasn’t interested in the gifts as much as the companionship after being isolated for much of the pregnancy.
August 8th, 2009 at 6:56 am
I am a mom on bed rest who has recently relocated states away from family and friends. I know if I have a shower at my home, then no one will be able to attend. I have found online showers where they are hosted on the web, yet that prevents my non computer savy relatives from attending. I could have the shower after the baby is here in November but to drive states away with a newborn is out of the question. Anyone have any suggestions? If not I am going to have my sisterinlaw throw one without me present.
December 20th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
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January 23rd, 2010 at 5:47 am
My daughter-in-law would like to have a shower for my other daughter-in-law who lives in Colorado, We live in Ohio. It is to far for her to travel. Any suggestions would be appreciated
February 3rd, 2010 at 11:16 pm
That was interesting . I love your finesse that you put into your post . Please do move forward with more similar to this.
February 6th, 2010 at 8:19 pm
I am hosting a baby shower for my daughter in law in 2 weeks. She lives in DC I live in KY – she was told by her DR that she could fly home before we made these plans now she has been told no flying or driving! My son has already taken military leave to be home for this event. He is still flying home to be the guest of honor at the shower, however, we will have the mother to be on Skype (video internet) so she will be able to interact with everyone even tho she will not actually be there in person.
February 11th, 2010 at 1:07 pm
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