There’s no doubt about it, a new sibling can shake things up in your family. Even though it’s been decades since I first came on the scene, for instance, I’m pretty sure my older sister is still mad that she’s not an only child…
If you’re expecting a new little one on the way, there’s a variety of things you can do to help your older child adjust to the changes. Here are some tips to assuage the fear or jealousy your little one might exhibit:
- Get big brother or sister involved! Ask the little ones to help you decorate the nursery, take part in the baby shower or pick out the new baby’s birth announcements. We offer the cutest new sibling birth announcements that will make the older sibling feel just as special as the new bundle of joy.
- Keep old routines intact. Although he or she should understand that things will change when the baby arrives, try to keep cherished rituals intact. Bedtime stories, after school walks and other intimate interactions will remain important as your little one tries to find his or her place in the growing family.
- Talk it out. Keep the lines of communication open in the family. Recognize that a tantrum is just a symptom that your child is feeling upset, and find a quiet place to let him or her open up.
- Make sure to keep your one-on-0ne time. Sure, it might be easier to tote both kids around at once, but nothing will make your little ones feel more special than alone time with their beloved parents.
- Remember—siblings aren’t twins! In an effort to keep everything “equal,” some parents give their children the same outfits, the same hair styles and even the same types of gifts at Christmas. It’s okay to treat your kids as individuals! In fact, they’ll benefit from the opportunity to develop their own distinct personalities.
Do you have any tips for new moms expecting another baby? How did your little ones handle the transition? We’d love to hear your input!