“You’re not getting any younger”… “You’ve been together forever!” … “You know your grandparents might not be around much longer”…”When will I be a grandmother/aunt/uncle/etc?”
Are you hearing or have you ever heard these sentiments from your family? Well, these are the comments and questions that surround you when people decide that it’s time for you to have a baby. That’s right, these are the comments you receive when they decide that it’s the right time for you. Hmm, that doesn’t sound right. With all the factors to consider when it comes to starting a family, isn’t it hard enough without the outside pressure of your nearest and dearest?
For instance, every Christmas, my dad gives me and my sister a special gift. The gift is usually something special like a piece of jewelery. So, imagine my excitement when I opened this year’s gift. The box was small and slender. It was wrapped beautifully. I tore into it and pulled out a pregnancy test. Yes, that’s right–my father bought me a pregnancy test and then instructed me to go take it. Yikes!
This isn’t the first “hint” thrown our way. Last year, my in-laws were shopping for cribs (with no baby in sight) and my sister called regularly to see if I had any “news.”
So, here’s the question – What’s the best way to respond to baby pressures? Do you just grin and bear it? Do you share your “plans” with those around you so that they know exactly what you’re thinking (if you even know)? Or, do you tell them you’re not ready?
How do you (or did you) deal with baby pressures?