Post by Jessica R.
My daughter and I spent a chunk of time this weekend addressing birthday party invitations for her big summer kick off pool party. Somewhere between forcing myself to relinquish control and letting her decorate each of her gorgeous turtle birthday party invitations and frantically searching for everyone’s mailing addresses and the correct spelling of each child’s name, I realized that I had forgotten some key wording on the actual invitation.
“No Gifts Please.”
Between friends from daycare, friends from school and friends from everywhere else, we’re sending out some 40 invitations. If each person brings a gift we’d be turning the girls’ already cramped and over stuffed room into a Toys’R’Us annex.
My kids do not need more toys. Our house cannot handle more clutter. And frankly they already have more than enough stuff.
That said, this morning as I carefully hand wrote the words on the back of each envelope, I wondered, is it rude of me to request no gifts? Am I breaking some social convention? Is my fixation on having less stuff denying party goers the right to bring something to the party girl? Am I putting those who truly want to bring her a gift in an awkward position?
By the time I had my little crisis of conscience I had already written the note on half the invitations. I couldn’t exactly stop and not send the same message to everyone, but now I’m racked with guilt over it. Even more so since one friend has already emailed to ask if she can disregard the injunction.
You tell us, is saying for “no gifts” rude or acceptable?